When faced with tragedy, illness or some other unfortunate occurrance that happens along the way in this thing called life.. you have three types of people. People who care. People who just don’t. And people who pretend they care.
When someone you know is going through a difficult time - - do them a big favor. Don’t utter these words: “Please let me know if there is something I can do to help.” unless you really mean it. 9 times out of 10 - that person isn’t going to call on you to do something to help . . but they just might…and if you’ve a shred of integrity in your body, you’ll step up to the plate, if it’s someone you really care about.
Without going into a bunch of messy details that wouldn’t be fair to the people who are intimately involved - I have only to say this - - yes, there is something you can do to help.
Stop pretending like there is something you want to do to help.
It’s not fair to give someone the false illusion that you are a person that they can turn to when despair has hit the wall. They may turn to you as an utter last resort - and then fall into empty space when those arms aren’t there to catch them, as they expected them to be.
Do yourself, and everyone involved, the favor of just saying nothing at all.
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6:24 pm on July 22nd, 2006
I have no idea what this post is about girl but I agree with you 150%! Nothing irritates me more than having someone tell me shit like that and if by the slight chance I do actually call in on it they immediately backtrack on it. So my policy is to really think before speaking when I want to offer someone help of any kind. Sorry you’re having to deal with backtrackers
9:34 pm on July 23rd, 2006
I think you and I are having messenger problems again. Regardless, I couldn’t agree more with your post and I hope all is well with you and yours.
11:58 am on July 24th, 2006
I have not had this experience (because I’m not at all a people person and don’t count on anyone but myself) but I hope whatever it is that you’re going through it gets resolved quickly.
8:41 am on July 25th, 2006
Well, if it makes you feel any better, I just don’t care.
Okay, I lied. I care…but I’m so far out of the way there actually isn’t anything I can physically do…but I’m [almost] always here if you want to bitch. You know that.
9:08 am on July 25th, 2006
I hope that whatever is going on is getting better for you! It SUCKS when people do that . . .
4:15 pm on August 1st, 2006
This is a great post and I totally agree. This has happened to me so often that I don’t even count on anyone anymore, which makes me sad.
1:21 pm on August 20th, 2006
ther’s one thing i got from this …
don’t say something ur not able to do,or don’t make promesses u can’t keep..
it happend to me alot that i stoped counting …
it sucks
hope it gets better..
this world can never ever be perfect