It’s official - I’m deprived.
No, I did not say depraved - - so knock it off!
For the last week - - sex has been out of the question. Why? It’s my doctor’s fault, completely. Ok - maybe not completely…I suppose there is some action I could take to solve this - but I’m unwilling to, at the moment.
I’m 35 and I have that awful habit of smoking. Yes, yes - I know. I’m a nurse, I should know better, blah blah blah — be that as it may, it’s a habit and it remains unbroken. I accept full responsiblity for this and want it to be known that I am not planning a lawsuit against Phillip Morris.
Chris and I have talked about quitting - but so far, that’s as far as that journey has taken us. Until I actually do quit - - and have stayed nicotine ’sober’ for at least 6 months, my doctor would not renew my prescription for birth control pills.
Bah.
I’m 35. He says that the cut off for women who smoke is 35 - he will not, under any circumstances, renew the prescription. He gave me a few alternatives:
- Quit smoking - remain smoke free for 6 months
- Abstain from sex
- Sterilization
- Condoms
- Diaphragm
- IUD
#1 isn’t possible because I can’t wait that long for birth control coverage (though I really should start thinking seriouslly about quitting smoking), #2 is definately NOT an option, #3 isn’t something I want to think about yet, #4 all I have to say is ICK!, #5 is messy and too intrusive upon the romantic moments in life - - which leaves me with #6.
Chris and I talked about #3 - however, we’re not ready to rule out kids completely. He’s 32 - never been married, and has no children, himself - and he hasn’t made the decision that he never wants children - and I want that door to remain open for now, just in case. I explained to my doc that I’m in a serious relationship with a man who I will probably spend the rest of my life with - so we’re not ruling out having children together…..yet.
So, on Thursday I go in for this IUD thing. Since he told me he wouldn’t give me the birth control pills, and until I’m covered - Chris and I are abstaining. While we haven’t ruled out having children - - we know for sure we don’t want them now — goodness no! lol
Well, we’re not completely abstaining….*cough*…there are…ahem…other ways, ya know - - but that’s another entry all together *grin*
So if I seem a little on edge - - there’s a good reason for it lol
Hopefully 2.8 and 2.9 will...
4:24 pm on October 12th, 2003
You have my sympathies! #5 isn’t just messy, if you do anything other than missionary it hurts!Well, that could just have been the tipped uterus thing but still not anything I’d want to try again.
4:30 pm on October 12th, 2003
Send LOTS of chocolate! lol
I’ve never tried the diaphragm - - I’ve always used pills. Doc wouldn’t let me try the shot, the patch, the impants - - nothing with hormones in it…so my options were limited. Hopefully the IUD will agree with me *crossing fingers*
10:57 pm on November 11th, 2003
Doesn’t it occur to him that perhaps the best option for a woman who is smoking may not be to have a child? He’s putting you in situation that seems, well, prone to failure and that failure would not be a good thing.
8:47 pm on November 12th, 2003
Actually, James - he gave me the best options I could ask for. Not understanding why you think he’s setting me up for failure? I don’t WANT children…that’s what I’m trying to prevent, in the first place. He gave me the best options available that don’t put me at increased risk for heart disease (meaning - the hormonal birth control methods aren’t really indicated for women who smoke.)
You’re right - I’m not in a position of having a child. Not because I smoke - - but because I don’t want to have a child.
Thanks!
5:56 pm on October 14th, 2004
Bringing this back to life. I confess to having clicked on your “sex” category. Umm, so, wow. How has the IUD worked out for you? And, hey, you guys have about the same age difference … I’m 34 (soon to be 35) and my guy is just turned 32. Huh. Interesting.
6:24 pm on October 14th, 2004
Actually, I went to the OB/GYN that my regular doc referred me to and he gave me pills that have no estrogen in them at all, rather they have progestrin. Only drawback is that I have to make sure to take them at the same time every single day, or they won’t be as effective.
So far, so good - no bambinos!
8:06 pm on October 14th, 2004
Huh. And no other bad side effects? What’s the pill called?
I’ve had a devil of a time with hot flashes and weird, unwarranted anxiety and depression … blah blah blah. (My hormone blog.)
I just switched Seasonale a couple weeks ago. I’m just curious about everything hormonal.
At least with Seasonale my interest in sex has returned. Ha!
9:04 pm on October 14th, 2004
A little irregularity in my periods for the first couple of months - nothing serious, though.
The only name on it is the ‘mini-pill’ - progestin. Here’s a link for ya!
11:39 am on October 15th, 2004
Very interesting. Thank you.
3:15 pm on November 30th, 2004
Glad you found a solution. I was going to suggest a trip to Rush Limbaugh’s doctor… :wink::twisted:
3:16 pm on November 30th, 2004
ha!